If I told you that the questions that haunt you for days together, the anxiety you feel towards certain situations, the life-changing decisions you are about to make , waiting for a little guidance and everything could be found in your dreams last night, you’d probably brand me as a crazy person and recommend me a psychiatrist! But I challenge you to read this post and I bet you’d have a life-changing view !
Did you know that , on average you can dream anywhere from one or two hours every night and within 5 minutes of waking half of your dream is forgotten. Within 10, 90% is gone!
Many of us claim that we don’t dream often or go to the extent of saying that we don’t get dreams at all! But that certainly is not true.. In fact, dreams hold a more important part in our life than what meets the eyes.
Dreams hold a very important place in the discovery of the subconscious and it’s powers.Moreover,dreams are the subconscious’s natural way of communicating and telling our conscious mind the things we most often miss in our waking life. Some dreams serve as premonitions and some are just a reflection of the emotions we feel in our waking life.
Most of us are blissfully unaware of the power of our dreams.
Did you know that what you dream of has little to no meaning. Your dreams are not what you interpret it to be.
Why do we dream?
The human brain is still quite a mystery taunting us by posing questions we still can’t discover answers to! Though people can’t seem to come to a conclusion on why we dream, there seems to be no shortage of explanations and numerous theories, all backed up with scientific reasons , of course !
The most common and the widely accepted theory is that the brain sifts through memories and collects important information which we are bombarded with in the day-time and rejects some others. While, this explains why we dream of daily trivial issues such as work place pressure , but still there are our unanswered dreams which we quite often label as weird!
The truth be told, we still have a lot to discover in areas concerning our grey matters. Until we know our brains, we just can’t conclude on why we dream and importantly , are dreams really important?
Dreams And Their Meanings
While, most of our dreams may seem pretty straight forward, we have all gone through dreams which doesn’t make sense at all. Little do we know that those dreams often hold symbols that can lead you to answering some of your long yearned questions.
Being chased by someone in you dreams is very common and did you know that your subconscious is asking you to face a situation or a person rather than running away from it? The next time you have this dream, analyse what you are running from in reality and face it. These dreams occur concurrently if the problem is not solved!
How To Track Your Dreams
Keeping a dream journal is an important part of lucid dreaming. Fortunately, it’s easy and fun – and ultimately improves your awareness of the dream state, making it easier to wake up in dreams.
You don’t need to have a artsy book to write in. Just grab a book and keep it write next to your bedside and when you wake up from your dream, write in it.
An important point to note is , to just keep writing what comes to mind. It may not sound logical at times, but just write it down.The details which you think are not important are indeed important. Things like the landscape you were in , the colour of your dress, the surroundings , everything matters and that’s why you should write down whatever you remember.It doesn’t matter if your grammar or language is bad. The main thing is to jot everything down.
How To Find “The Hidden Meaning Of Your Dreams”
The first step is to analyze your dream . Think about how you felt in your dream. Your emotions and your feelings in your dream are very important.
If you are not able to come to a conclusion , check out the dream dictionaries online. They might help you. But remember, no one can decode your dreams better than you.
P.S: Read more about how to decode you dreams in the next blog post! Stay tuned.
A twisted guilt in a pure heart!
Oh! She knew ,
In the bottom of her heart -she knew;
His life would go on.
She was naive
She was one who’d get hurt-
Instead of hurting;
She shushed her mind
But her conscience pricked her
She couldn’t hurt someone
When she had vowed-
She’d never do that awful thing-
She experienced a lot;
Little did she know-
She was the only one who’d hurt!
Deep down she knew-
He wouldn’t be hurt
Nor would he cry
For all she knew-
He couldn’t have cared less!
Still, it hurt her a lot-
Than it should have!
Though deep down-she knew;
She still had to wait-
For her heart to understand reality
And find peace and move on-
Knowing it never hurt him-in the first place!
You came into my life
When I was nothing short of a tempest
Uninvited, you broke through my barriers
The ones, that took me -eternities to build
It didn’t make sense, when you wanted to be my friend
You were there by me- my anchor of hope
I pulled you under, while
You gave me your light
A part of you, you lost ,
With everything you gave me
What you didn’t realize was
Yours was slowly fading away
But me- I was too selfish to let you go
You were my addiction- strong and sweet
Giving me all of what you had
Now I miss you , come back
Now let me be your anchor of hope
Now , I can give a part of me to you,
Please let me save you and me!!
How many of us have been in situations where we just can’t decide and feel we have too many options. If your’e one of those people , well, join the club!
When making a decision, especially when it involves a fight between your heart and brain, most of us , just get irritated , worn out and avoid making the decision altogether. But we do realize that we can’t keep running away from making a decision.
Everyone of us know that decisions made in haste or anger or any heightened emotion for that mater , would always almost be wrong. Anger clouds our brain and reasoning ability. We ultimately end up regretting the decision.
This is one method I follow when I’m having a difficult choice deciding what to do. The ideal solution will be to relax your mind and avoid thinking about the problem the whole time.
If you are time-pressed , then follow this technique:
- Keep your mind engaged and away from the decision at hand. This is to make the mind calm so, it’s easier to make a good decision.
- For most of us, relaxing does not come naturally, especially when there is a major decision to be taken. But relaxing is major. Meditation and observing your breath can be very useful at these times.
- Meditating for half an hour is ideal. After you have calmed down, focus on the decision you need to take.
- List out all the pros and cons of it and analyse it with both your heart and mind.
- It’s very important for you , while taking a decision that you strike a balance between your heart and mind.
Read more in this post on how to sync your heart and mind : https://archaicrhapsody.wordpress.com/2016/12/11/how-to-sync-your-heart-and-mind-to-improve-your-decision-making-skills/
If your fortunate and are not time-pressed to take a decision instantly , then what you have to do is quite simple.Just wait for 15 days! Yes, you read it right. But it’s not as easy as it seems.
For a few days, distract yourself from the problem or a decision you have to make.It’s going to keep popping up, but just avoid thinking about it for a long time. If it’s a hard decision you have to take, it’s going to make you more anxious, which is exactly what we don’t want. When you let your mind loose, away from the problem, you will stop stressing about it and it will make things clearer in a different perspective. For most of us, after a few days, the problem/decision is not going to look so daunting as it seemed days before! It will make you take decisions with necessary logic, not completely blinded by your emotions.When you feel you are distanced enough from the problem(it doesn’t make you anxious), meditate if you want to feel relaxed and just go for it! Make your decision and voila, you have finally made that difficult decision!
So, happy decision-making!
Howdy and happy new year to all the readers out there!
The year 2016 was so valuable and memorable one . Leaving behind 2016 I have a weird feeling of euphoria and melancholy which can not be described otherwise. I had my own share of happiness and lessons I learnt through this year.I’d like to think I’ve reached the epitome of learning life lessons in this past year. Some learning it the hard way, some barely scraping through , I’d like to share some of my thoughts.
- Hold your self respect high : This is a very important lesson everyone needs to know in life. No matter who it is or for whatever reason you think is very important , I can assure you your self respect is worth more. Don’t have doubts in it.
2. Be self dependent : Don’t depend on others for anything. It slowly kills your self confidence and makes you doubt your abilities.Its a silent killer, you will never realize it until it unfolds in the end and that’s going to be really bad.
3. Stop chasing things or people : The beauty of life is that when you chase anything it evades you. Do your job, don’t beg for anything or anyone to be in your life.Whatever and whoever is necessary will find a way to be in your life. You don’t have to keep chasing.
4. Accept, let go and move on : This is something which everyone of us can relate to. No matter whatever people do , learn to forgive them, accept and move on, not for their sake but to preserve your sanity and peace. Respect yourself enough to let go at the right time.
5. Stop comparing yourself with others:
Comparing myself with people who seem to be better than me in life , brought me nothing but intense sadness, feelings of worthlessness and bouts of depression. I had this cycle going on about in my life for quite a time!
But after some time, I realised that comparing doesn’t take me anywhere in life.Instead, I took time to analyse myself.Anytime I felt myself falling into the trap,I would just stop and think again, where I stand and sometimes, I write down my goals in life and how I am going to achieve it. That makes me feel a lot better , because having a plan and taking a step toward it is far better than sitting and moping!So the next time I see someone who I can look up to, I can’t stop my feelings of jealousy and admiration, but I learnt to control it. I learnt to look beyond that and do whatever I have to do to get close to my goal.
“Others can be a great source of inspiration and learning for you, but don’t fall into the trap of comparing yourself with them.They’ll always be someone richer, more beautiful,more successful more adventurous, more admired.Such is life.Instead of comparing yourself to them, be the best version of you”.
6. Do what you have to do. Don’t expect results or appreciation from anyone.That is not your duty. ( This is my favorite lesson from The Bhagwad Gita).
7.Don’t go behind people or things. It’s just not worth it. Have your self-respect intact.If someone wants to be in your life they will always make an effort to stay. You don’t have to keep begging.
8.Stop getting too tensed and stay calm in any situation.
9. Don’t attach yourself too much to anything. Enough said :
10. Stop living in your past.Your past is your past for a reason. Leave all your past mistakes, guilts and everything where it belongs. The only reason you need to look back is to remember the lesson and not the mistakes! Learn to learn form your mistakes , not mop about them.
11.Don’t trust everyone and let people in easily. Appearances are deceptive. But when you trust someone, there shouldn’t be any what ifs or doubts in your trust. Be loyal.
12.Sometimes, you may not get what you want in life. But accept things as they come, strive for something better , don’t lose hope, if things are meant to be, then it will be yours.
13.Trust and have confidence in your abilities. No matter how many people belittle you and put you down , keep mum and act. You are more than you think you are.
14.It’s fine to put your ego aside to make relationships last.But there’s a thin line between ego and self-respect.Don’t compromise too much.You are important too. Walk away when you realize that you are the only one who is making efforts to make any relationship last.
15. Don’t judge people. Don’t jump to conclusions. There’s always another point of view to a problem.Give the other person time to explain things, analyse and then decide. Hasty decisions are mostly always wrong ones.
Authors : Vinoth. S , Monisha.B
Remember the numerous times when you found yourself in an internal crisis, your heart going after your desire, your mind warning you to not do that again!
Everyone of us have invariably gone through the struggle of decision making. All those voices in your head , the non-stop banter which is never ending..if only you could stop those two incessant voices! Its a situation none would have escaped!
I bet , when most of you saw the question, you felt you had to make a decision! You had to “choose” , between your heart and mind. Many times in life we don’t even realize that we don’t have to choose! Life is not always about having to choose.The truth be said, it’s only when you stress yourself to choose one among two, that’s where the problem rises, sometimes, it’s not the decision that gives you the headaches!
We have to realize that we don’t have to be engaged in the constant battle between the two, sometimes you just have to let one decide.
If you see someone screaming in pain in an accident,then instead of panicking – calm down your heart and let your mind to think logically. It’s one of the situations, where you should let your mind take over rather than your first instincts to stay away!
There are situations where we must let both go hand in hand. We should learn to balance both.
When you are seeing a child begging in the road , most of us pity the child , offer some money and mind our own business. But let’s stop for a while and think. Children should be educated , not left on the roads to beg for their needs. Use your logical mind at times too. Money might go in the wrong hands or for wrong deeds. Instead, try to offer some food or other basic needs, if you are very kind-hearted, take some steps to educate the child too!
Identify The voices in your head :
Your heart voice is very subtle and is often ignored.People call it the gut instinct. It doesn’t scream to be noticed, it comes as a soft warning and without logic.For some people , they experience it by “seeing images” in the mind, for some they “ hear a voice” for some, its just a feeling that something is not right.These signs are very subtle , pay close attention to it.
The minds voice has no problem in identifying itself.Its the one which is the loudest , practically screaming at you.Its the voice that stops you from following your instincts.But not every time we should find logic in our decisions.
At times, you should trust yournever deceives you.
The best way to strike a balance :
The next time you can’t stop the voices in your head, just pause and pay attention to the voices,the language of the mind and the language of your heart. Those two seem to never agree , but when you are able to strike a balance between the two , that’s when you would have good decision making skills.
The best way to strike this balance is to observe yourself. Be your own watcher. Pay attention to the different voices.
The best way to strengthen the connection is meditation.When you are caught between two ends, don’t panic. Close your eyes and meditate. Learn to listen to both the voices.
“ Meditation is not running away from reality, its not a state of concentration, in fact its a state of de-concentration.Its a state of heightened conscious awareness”.
At times when meditation is not possible, just watch your breath.Relax your mind, shut it out, that’s when you will hear your hearts voice. Its when your heart speaks, your thoughts change course and when your thoughts change, your life changes !
Take control of your emotions. Do not attach yourself to emotions. Fell them , express them in the appropriate way and move on.
When you take control of your emotions, your thoughts change likewise. When your thoughts change , so does your actions. Your actions are your habits in disguise. Your habits have the power to change your life!
Next time, instead of venting your anger out at someone , wait, don’t do the first thing you want to..don’t react. Wait and then respond.
Remember the age old adage ” practice makes you perfect” .Well, it applies here too.This is not something you can build in a day or two, it takes time and at the end you will be a more mature person in life.
Strengthen the heart-mind connection to have a better life. “ Follow your heart , but don’t forget to take your mind with you !”
When your heart and mind are in accord, that’s when you live a peaceful and harmonious life.
“Meditation is not a way of making your mind quiet. It is a way of entering into the quiet that is already there ― buried under the 50,000 thoughts the average person thinks every day” ― Deepack Chopra
Have you ever thought about the inherent power in you , that can and absolutely will change your life. You can live the life of your dreams. No I’m not talking nonsense, nor have I read to many fantasy novels.It’s true. You have the power manifested in you , it’s just up to you to use it!
Just take 5 minutes of your time, to read this post and I assure you , that 5 minutes , you are going to have a revelation in life !
So, to all the newbies who have no idea about this, alpha meditation is a effective relaxation technique and it’s the most popular meditation technique which is used to re-program the subconscious mind. Using binaural beats to reach the alpha state is also popular.
Binaural beats are certain waves which induce your mind to go into a calm state or an induced trance.
Now, what’s so special about alpha meditation?
- There are a number of benefits of alpha waves. The most obvious are that you become calmer and more relaxed. It has also many effects on the body. For example, it slows down the heart rate, which can be effective against heart problems, the body finds more time to regenerate and it even has a very positive effect on learning speed and memorization.
- Alpha meditation is a bridge between your conscious and subconscious mind.
What are alpha waves?
During the day, our brain waves mostly oscillate between the beta and the alpha state.
Alpha waves can be seen as the “relaxing waves”. Besides being quite relaxing, they also have an extremely important role to play in the human mind. They work as a bridge between the subconscious part of the mind (theta waves) and the conscious part of the mind (beta waves).
Alpha waves typically occur, when someone is lying on his couch with closed eyes and simply takes some time for him or her. They also occur in early stages of meditation. Alpha waves can also be induced or stimulated to be produced more frequently and easily with alpha binaural beats.
Alpha meditation is one of many meditation techniques,which helps to calm the mind.
Alpha state is where your brain waves are similar to the ones when you are sleeping or ideally in a dream.
Alpha meditation is very powerful method to reprogram your subconscious mind.
Easy guide to enter the alpha state:
1.Sit at a comfortable place where there are minimum to no distractions.
2.Close your eyes and start counting in reverse order from 100 to 0. You can repeat this for a week and then reduce the counting from 50 to 0 and so on. The point is that when you start you won’t have high concentration and it will take much time to reach the alpha state, as you progress, you will need much lesser time to reach the alpha state.
3.With each count inhale and exhale deeply. observe the breath.(this maybe difficult at first,but whenever you catch your mind wandering ,bring the focus back to your breath.Just focus on your breath(maybe it’s cliche, but this helps). It doesn’t matter what thoughts come and leave your head, do just that. Let it come and go. Don’t attach any emotions to the thought.
this time ,you are in the alpha state of mind.(while there is no certain way to say your’e at alpha ,you can feel circles of energy ,enjoy the moment of serenity).
5.During this time,your subconscious is very receptive to any new thoughts.You can recite your own positive affirmations to yourself. Be careful of your words. Inflict as much as positivity in them, fill your subconscious of positive thoughts.
The best time to alpha meditate is when you are just awake from sleep in the morning or when you are going to sleep. These are the times, you are most likely to be relaxed.
There is no particular sign to particularly say you are at alpha, but you should be feeling circles of energy and there will be serenity and calmness round you.Enjoy this moment of bliss. When you are getting started, you might not realize this, but don’t lose hope, continue to practice , you will feel the change.
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P.S : Feel free to share your progress in the comments below and share your experiences too. Happy to help if you have further queries. Thank you!
Our mind is still a big mystery that eludes it’s solution. We still have failed to comprehend the hidden powers and the capacity of our mind. Even when we are in the midst of this heightened period of enlightenment , humans still struggle to comprehend fully the powers dormant within us.
Meditation is one tool which helps us to comprehend some of the mysteries of the human mind and unleash it’s powers , to those who are willing to experiment with it! You know when they say, you cannot understand certain things unless you have experienced it? Meditation in some ways is like this…you have to experience it to understand it
How many of you out there have tried starting a meditation routine, but ended up in vain? If you are one of them, don’t fret, your’e just at the right place. Either you are a complete novice to the world of meditation or you are just discovering yourself, this post is for you.
Meditation is often viewed as a “psychic” sort of thing and gives out an aura of the same. But aren’t times fast changing as more people are now turning up to meditation for a stress-free life among other things.
Meditation gives you a place to go inside yourself where you can find inner peace and communicate with your mind. It helps you come in terms of who you truly are. Discover yourself. For those who are unaware of the benefits a 10-minute meditation session can give you, I suggest you try it for yourself.
First of all , let me clear a strong yet wrong misconception people have about meditating. It’s what chases people away from meditating.
“Meditation is not concentration, it is in fact de-concentration”.
I know when people imagine meditating what pops up is an image of a person sitting with the eyes closed and chanting something. I bet something very close to this :
But meditating is not about sitting in a secluded place, with your fingers in the ‘meditation pose’ and willing your mind to ‘not’ think about anything.
Let me let you in on a secret that most of you don’t know : Our mind is not capable of not doing anything/thinking for even a minute. That being said, you might ask : then how does one meditate?
So, finally , here’s your completely easy guide to improve your life in just 5 minutes:
It’s not very difficult. Just be at ease. It helps if your surroundings are silent, but it’s fine if it’s not.You don’t have to have a strict posture too. Just sit how you are comfortable. Just close your eyes and I guarantee you the minute you close your eyes, your mind will be shouting like crazy!!! But what you have to do is quite simple: Just focus on your breath.It doesn’t matter what thoughts come and leave your head, do just that. Let it come and go. Don’t attach any emotions to the thought.
When you do this, you might not be doing this right every time, sometimes it’s totally fine to sneak on your thoughts and enjoy them or just hate yourself for your thoughts. Come on ,we are humans and we are not perfect. But the point is , don’t ever ditch your breath! Don’t do that. It’s fine if you lost it once, just continue. Before you know it, your mind will stay calm, maybe if you have mastered this you will be free of thoughts for sometime or you will be able to control your thoughts and steer your mind back in control , just by the snap of your fingers!
There is a video which will help you : https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=nOJTbWC-ULc
Meditation is an unique tool which gives you the opportunity to communicate with your subconscious mind. It helps to strike a balance in your already stressful life.
Meditating everyday for at least 5 minutes also helps. It’s up to you on how much time you want to spend on it.Have patience , you have to wait to see your fruits of labour! Nothing good comes easy.
P.S : Share your feelings and thoughts about how you found this guide to be helpful and I would like to hear about how meditating has changed your lives.
“When life tries to bring you down , just dance!”Sounds too simple and too good to be true right? But this is the first thing I’d resort to after a day full of unpleasantness.I seriously am no “Dancing queen” , but still don’t we all love to dance when we hear our favourite song. After all everyone needs our share of “me” time , feel free to close your room and party!(if you feel very bashful) Oh , don’t forget , the music on full blast.I guarantee you that maybe you may feel low at first, but after this, you are definitely going to feel awesome!2. Pick up a series of fiction :The words of Mason Cooley are so very true!When you read fiction you live a 100 lives. Momentarily you forget the problems of your life and you become so engrossed in your own fantasy world. Its good sometimes to just be able to shut out your problems and live the life of someone you’ll never meet!3. Talk to your confidant :There’s no better cure for a low soul than just spitting it all out. What are your besties for when you can’t count on them when you need them the most. Just spit it all out to someone and I found that I don’t care if the person understands the problem, my anger and frustration is out, in the end that’s all we need , a person who cares enough to listen!4 Write ! : Not everyone of us are lucky to to have a listening ear at all times.That’s when your journal saves you. This is pretty simple and that’s why I love this.You just have to write your heart out, no need to worry about grammar and whether what you write makes sense too. Just let your thoughts flow out , let go of your fears, insecurities and everything that bothers you. Here’s another tidbit: your diary is too loyal to be judgmental!5. Cry it out : Sometimes, it’s alright to cry. I’m a person who wants my own privacy, I prefer to cry in the confines of my own home where eyes won’t pry at me. Crying it out with all the bouts of”why me” works out. You will definitely get the pain out of you. Actually I figured out that crying rejuvenates you!6. Exercise: